We go through life being unmindful of the people around us. How many times have you gone to a store and the cashier asked how you were doing? Too many to count, right!
The normal response to this is “good, how about you?”
We do this response so automatically that when they ask something else, we sometimes respond with the wrong answer.
I just did this yesterday at the movies. By the way, I went to go see Zootopia, which is hilarious and will definitely have you laughing.
When I went up to the counter to get drinks, the cashier said enjoy your movie. In my head I thought he asked how I was doing. My automatic response was, “good, how about you?”
Talk about awkward! He didn’t ask me how I was, he said “enjoy your movie.”
When things like that happen, we get a little embarrassed, but it’s actually a really big problem.
We live in a society that is so fast paced that we don’t even take time to listen to those around us.
Simply listening to others and thinking about our response before we respond could change the outcome of your whole day. What went from a simple interaction at a grocery store, could turn into changing someone’s life.
Although we do this a lot with strangers, we do it with those we love the most.
I love you starts to become just a thing you say, be careful becomes a gesture of kindness instead of a genuinely caring statement, good luck starts being said when you don’t know anything else to say.
Have you ever wondered why friendships end and why relationships stop becoming relational? I believe a lot of it has to do with mindfulness.
When you stop paying attention to the details, when you stop genuinely caring about conversations, things come to an end.
Next time you tell anyone you love them, be mindful about it. Don’t just say this strong word to say it. Next time someone asks you how you are doing, take time to try and really open up a conversation.
Maybe that person has no-one to talk to and they need some encouragement for that day. Don’t just say “good, how about you?” Ask them questions about business.
Be a mindful listener, a mindful thinker and a mindful talker.
We need to stop going through the motions day-to-day like robots.
Once you become more mindful of your surroundings and who you are talking to, your relationships will grow into something you never thought possible.